Interview with author of “Grace for the Good Girl” Emily FreemanBy Trillia Newbell | February 29th, 2012 | Category: Uncategorized | 1 Comment »
Trying to be perfect is hard work. Waking up every day, putting on a mask of happiness, and hoping no one will see through it all. This can be the struggle of the “good girl”. But the real good news is God has grace for the good girl.
Author Emily P. Freeman, 34, has been fighting this fight her whole life, and in 2006 began writing about her journey on her blog, Chatting At the Sky. In 2011 Freeman put her passion for Jesus and hope for freedom from the “good girl” mentality into a book called “Grace for the Good Girl”.
Learn more about Freeman and her book in this Q &A.
Q: When did you begin writing?
Freeman: I’ve been writing all my life – filling journals and notebooks with stories and thoughts and made-up drama. It has only been in the past three years or so that I began writing with a particular message in mind.
Q. What inspired the name Chatting At the Sky?
Freeman: The name of the blog comes from a song by Sarah Masen called Tuesday. The song describes a girl who lived a regular day in her regular life without making space for her soul to breathe.
“Tuesday, after a reckless and used day. I was running and running without a chance to stop and chat at the sky.”
At the end of the day, the girl in the song stops and takes notice of the beauty in life that surrounds her. And she doesn’t only notice, she enters in. She stops to chat at the sky. In doing so, she sees her Creator. I want Chatting at the Sky to be a place for people can come and take a deep soul breath.
Q. What inspired “Grace for the Good Girl”?
Freeman: I grew up a good girl going to church. Because of that, I also grew up thinking I didn’t have much of a story to tell because my testimony was “boring”. I wondered for a long time if God could really see me, the ordinary good girl in the middle. This book was inspired by my journey of understanding that my story is a miracle because of Jesus, not because of me. And I wanted to tell it.
Q: How do you define “good girl”?
The good girl is:
— An ideal image we have in our heads of the girl who always seems to be good enough (and we can never catch up to her).
— A figment of our imagination.
— The enemy to freedom.
The good girl desperately wants to know if she’s doing things right. She wants to please God, but may not be willing to risk trusting him.
Q. What is your number one advice to the “good girl”.
Freeman: God calls us his beloved, but often times we act more like the do-loved. My number one advice to the good girl? Be the loved.
Q. What do you hope anyone reading your book with come away with?
Freeman: Just freedom – from impossible expectation, from ridiculous standards, from shame. Freedom.
Learn more about Emily Freeman and her book, “Grace for the Good Girl” on her site, Chatting At The Sky, http://www.chattingatthesky.com/.
Emily P. Freeman, author of Grace for the Good Girl, is a writer, speaker, and listener. She is the creator of the blog, Chatting at the Sky, where she combines photos and story to create space for souls to breathe. She is deeply curious about the mystery of Christ, the gracefulness of the everyday, and the sacredness of our inner lives. Everything she writes or speaks about comes from this curiosity and the deep conviction that every need, desire, and expectation is met in the person of Jesus Christ.
She writes for DaySpring’s blog, (in)courage and has travelled as a writer with Compassion International to raise awareness for the needs of children living in poverty. She attended Columbia International University to study the Bible and the University of North Carolina at Greensboro where she earned a degree in Educational Interpreting for the Deaf.
Emily and her husband, John, live in North Carolina where John is the high school pastor and Emily leads a small group of junior girls. John and Emily have been married for ten years and have three children.